Just because you got what you deserve and others haven't, doesn't mean that you don't deserve it.
Maybe you got only a fraction of what you deserve and others got the less fraction of theirs, doesn't mean that you don't deserve it all.
Just because someone didn't get as much as he deserved less than everybody else, doesn't mean that it's not evil already
In my opinion, the public should recognize adulthood as:
1. One who pledged to always prioritize justice in his/her conducts or interactions
2. Could be held responsible. Could be reasoned with. Meaning that the person has the ability to understand what rules are, and when someone was not being fair/just.
So an adult is someone who has a good sense of justice always (since we are not perfect yet, we settle for common relativity for the sense of justice)
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Some people won't prioritize this, so they should not be allowed in public interactions.
However inadequacy doesn't constitute unwillingness. So I felt it's fair to have people define their own parameters based on their own definitions of justice and reject people out of their collective properties. As long as their standards were not against the law or Justice itself.
my definition of Justice: Justice is when everyone gets whatever they wanted and needed whenever they wanted or needed them.
Since we are not there yet, the Truthful progress towards there is our current Justice. (and since the Truth is Truthfully everything, all Truthful point of views are respectfully Truthful, not just the point of views of the authorities).
But simply put: You can't be an adult if you won't prioritize justice.
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Being an adult one would have this consideration: How am I supposed to know what is Truly good? I might need all the knowledge in the world, all the point of views that there is.
Indeed I agree, and that's what I call absolute Justice.
How do we judge whether a person is being decent or not, having a good sense of Justice or not? How do we say how much compensation one must make in order to be responsible? Who could possibly know what's really Just everytime?
Is it in the law?, in the intuition?, it's in the popular consensus, it's in the guidelines of the experts and the leaders, it's in the beauty of it!, no, it's in logic and common sense, it's in your heart, it's hidden where it couldn't be known, no it is not, it's nowhere...
It's so tiring, why not just settle with what is peaceful, that's it, who cares about Justice... (let the extortionists won, power rules).
But then, when are we ever going to move on?
It's in where it is, and it's there...
When you're an adult you try, because you always tried, you knew how hard it is...
and you keep on trying
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In the end, it comes down to personal property. Minding your own business, defending your grounds... even when that is not fair / unjust, at least the alternatives are definitely not "Just" from your point of view.
Your point of view is your Truth, the God in you, what else are you supposed to rely on?
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If your truth is a lie, how could it be compatible sustainably? And if your facts are True but your wisdom is wrong, wouldn't it still be a lie?
Justice is impossible? then what do you call people getting what they wanted and needed? Justice manifests all the time to a lot of people...
The problem lies in when it didn't happen, and even that is not a good enough reason to stop being an adult. That is the reason to be an adult.
Why don't you try to buy for the Truth and Wisdom? with your time, with your mind, with your assets? What is shown in public, how hopeless things are... yet they didn't change the fact of advancements in technology and civilization, philosophy and morality, relationships.
Why won't anyone be an adult?
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Now it comes down to my subjective suggestion, if you want your selfishness be Truthfully Just then give thanks. The more you give thanks to your sources of solutions the more you become a part of the circuit of mutual solutions, the preservation of it.
Whether your mind would be vested interested in it, whether your position in the civilization of the society, whether your quantum presence... supposedly.
Think about it, right? Why wouldn't it be?
I had a conversation with my sister yesterday and I realized, I acted like I understood bullying, but I couldn't quite pin it down.
What is bullying? Is it kept on doing what others disliked? But that's just friendship, or a part of friendship, or any human relationship.
Or was it doing what others clearly disliked up to a certain point of discomfort?
Then is life bullying you everyday, or is it your untrained emotions? Or, is being bullied always mean being victimized, or you just got upset too easily... But then again the definition of bullying is where the problem is.
Harmful bullying vs Acceptable bullying
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From professional definitions online, bullying is all about being harmful. So... Google searching, I should've done that before
It would be great if there was a tool (maybe with the help of A.I) to project risks in numbers and colors like the weather channel. So that people who contributed to the lowering of the risk, their contribution would be so blatant it is easier to reward them appropriately.
Currently people just tend to reward what is immidiate rather than what is wise. If risks of pandemic, wars, crimes, etc were greatly exposed to everybody, even better if we could filter local risks such as accidents or traffic jams, this would be the direction that could significantly increase the wisdom of the system including the rewarding mechanism if done well.
Why are you disciplining yourself, why are you denying your desire?
When you've got what you wanted, or the worthiness of it changed, stop the discipline!
Discipline must not be forever... the people you know might like you when you are disciplined, they might want what you could achieve, they might love you as a machine... but they don't love you as a self
Pleasure might not be what defines you, but your pleasure is a part of yourself. Keep on denying yourself is self transforming, but why would you want to do that if you don't hate who you are?
Everything has a purpose, everything that matters, physicall and spiritually.
If they don't then they'd be a part of the chaos (second law).
Why are you disciplining yourself, have you achieved what you are looking for, is it still worth it?
Cause I might be witnessing a type of person who is capable of disciplining the self non-stop, a person who is just wired that way.
I'm worried... please... a person like that is special for sure, but stop wanting the acknowledgement... you are who you are. Greed is good if it is for Love, Love is eternal... Greed is stupid if it is for things that are temporary, then the Greedy person is losing instead of gaining in the end.
God is Love
So I picked up where I left off of My Hero Academia series in Sushiroll and I watched the duel between Deku and Bakugo, in this duel Bakugo having gone through some serious ordeal, also had been suffering from an "Empathic suffering", which has became the reason for their duel.
I'm not going to spoil the story so I'm going to continue to my own explanation of the Empathic suffering.
So suffering is useful in discipline not only to burn things in your memory, but upfront sufferings are useful to give a sense of improvement to your subconscious when next being required to change to a disciplined lifestyle (otherwise you'd just feel that the discipline is a net negative for your comfort throughout time).
But sufferings don't have to be experienced directly all the time, they could be acquired through association (with pre-experienced sufferings), empathy with other people, empathy to your future self, giving thanks to your sources of solutions, etc, and of course the combination of them.
Empathy is a very effective and efficient way of incorporating sufferings, but you got to watch out for things that you're empathetic about might be a story of lies.
Empathy to your future self is like you saw the world is moving faster than you, or the person who was always behind you now accelerating much faster than you do, this might not be a very good indicator of your performance, but it is a point of consideration nonetheless.
(Disclaimer: Everybody's situation is different so if you bask yourself in the wrong attitude, please don't, you'd scale up the mistake. So don't sweat yourself over other people's rapid or slow improvement, because human beings and their developments are seriously dangerous things to oversimplify).
Having said that, when you perceived the people around you through the lens of your expertise, you could find indicators of what your future position is going to be. Whether it is bad or good, danger or opportunities, or both, you could derive ambitions out of that and from there the endurance needed to get into a discipline.
Measure carefully the value of your sufferings compared to the discipline, if you haven't got enough then you haven't got enough, be honest to yourself and make policies accordingly.
Edit: There's another important thing to notice too, if you still have access to the comfortable or fun stuff alternative to the discipline... still going to be a problem. What you can do is to oversaturate the fun so it became undesirable if its safe, and/or commit to not do it as a part of the discipline.
So the point of me saying this is... make the discipline the remedy of your sufferings not other things.
Plus in addition to successfully completing the discipline, the reward of the marathon should taste even more rewarding for your mind.
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Suffering through giving thanks:
The way this works for me is: Firstly I internalize this notion:
"The scarcity of the world is not of time nor energy nor money but of mutual solutions, solutions are unlimited but we are so limited because we are not giving back enough to our sources of solutions."
Now, this gets me started, then I would try to sacrifice some of my resources to try to solve the problems of the people who have solved my problems. In the end I would be left off with less resources... now all of the sufferings in my life after this, would be in the premise of "Because I gave thanks", Because I gave thanks I experience these difficulties, I could've made it easier if I had more... sure... but, now I'm a more of a positive part of the growth of the level of availability of mutual solutions in reality. My investment is in the positive, I'm interested in the betterment of the reality, I have acquired the seed of ambition... of the harmony of Justice.
So now everytime there's something bad happening, I'm motivated by anger (suffering), there's something good happening, I'm refreshed, and then motivated by wanting to be a part of it (suffering), now the world is my suffering and my happiness.
(Disclaimer: There's a humanly limit to sufferings at a time, if things were already beyond your grip, it is not something that I could understand nor it is something I know how to deduce making me qualified to imply everything here. What I know is when you win above it, something unique happened that is precious. That something is your original solution)
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Personally, for me, suffering is not something to be shared to other people (unless it was for something relevant).
More than that suffering is not something to be experienced by other people, I hate policies that impose sufferings to other people.
The prove of my suffering is in my performance
I like the sound of: "A world where unpleasant words have little to no effect to the progress of Justice/Prosperity/Civilization in people"
I think this angle has a lot of value to offer, given that other types of progress are queueing with businesses and workers to further the causes while this one is not.
Humor for example, Insult battles (Insulting rap battles), Gaming actually, Martial Arts, Competitive Sports, Fitness training, Forgiveness and Understanding (Communal Activities) like Support Groups, Podcasts, Psychological Therapy, Psychiatry,
Ok I see...
But, the hindrance of this... innuendos/disrespectful negotiations, lying flatteries, unjust/unfair reputational attacks
Are underrated as dangerous patterns to propagate.
Should there be a law against them like other dangerous/malicious acts? Yes, but current law needs to be simplified and made more user friendly too, and that's also imperative, otherwise this would just be ignored.
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Another problem I dislike is people with guilt in their heart lashing over me or other people blaming our "annoying" "mannerless" "disrespectful" acts, while actually it is guilt that is eroding them from the inside. I know this from experience. And I'm not saying that your guilt is yours to blame, maybe its not, maybe you picked it up from other people you emphatize with (without them saying anything). But all of the above dangerous acts are not helping, they make things worse for your articulation and self control.
And consider this too, the guilt is embedded within the culture, over something that already passed 100 years ago... How about that?
