Curb your entitlement to compassion
As I talked about in the previous post, most guys have innate tendencies to fight. And there are multiple benefits to this, some might not as obvious as the others.
It is intuitive for guys who have experienced many fights to identify "the lines". There are lines that if crossed would reasonably lead to conflict. How intense would the conflict be, also have levels of lines. If you just look at it from the outside, your subconscious wouldn't get the feel to it... you might be able to rationalize it to a certain degree, but know that your subconscious too could contribute to the understanding.
Such know and feel are pretty common among guys, but it doesn't mean that it is a privilege that should not be applied to everybody. It should because it is real and archetypal. Let's say your kids often create a ruckus messing with other kids' toys and being physically annoying. It is so obvious to guys that there is no tolerance for causing problems for other people. You are responsible for every single damage that you've done, no matter how old you are. This rule is not made up, not decided recklessly or mindlessly by men, it emerged as consequences of myriad numbers of repeated conflicts throughout history... and intuitively identifiable from the atmospheres by those who have been exposed to samples of natural conflicts. Physical conflicts and the patterns that would lead to those, the lines, the natural escalations of stakes, these are the things whose understanding of them is deeply ingrained inside people's subconscious.
The objections males like me often face when dealing with women is that they seem to not want to abide by this intuition. The costs of peace, the danger one should respect, the consequences of challenging one's right/property... I know that violence or attacks against assets are not to be brought in a civilized society, in order to ensure the serenity of it, but you should not take it for granted and nurture unfairness. We don't make the rules, it's only logical and natural, it's derived from what is just and what would produce the most peace and serenity. One way you can use to unlock your senses of "the lines" are, getting into simulations of regulated conflicts, through games, sparring, negotiations, involving different levels of stakes. Pay attention to the rules of the game and avoid vagueness in the standard as much as possible. Try your best to articulate the experience boldly.
Its time to not use compassion as an excuse to regress into unfairness, the type of unfairness that has been recognized by tradition. Its time to look up to the wisdom of Isaac Newton, standing in the shoulders of giants, and use the wisdom of the masculines to further your prosperity and independence. I suggest Dr. Jordan B Peterson's "Twelve Rules For Life, An Antidote to Chaos" for references in understanding the utility behind the culture of conflicts.
It is intuitive for guys who have experienced many fights to identify "the lines". There are lines that if crossed would reasonably lead to conflict. How intense would the conflict be, also have levels of lines. If you just look at it from the outside, your subconscious wouldn't get the feel to it... you might be able to rationalize it to a certain degree, but know that your subconscious too could contribute to the understanding.
Such know and feel are pretty common among guys, but it doesn't mean that it is a privilege that should not be applied to everybody. It should because it is real and archetypal. Let's say your kids often create a ruckus messing with other kids' toys and being physically annoying. It is so obvious to guys that there is no tolerance for causing problems for other people. You are responsible for every single damage that you've done, no matter how old you are. This rule is not made up, not decided recklessly or mindlessly by men, it emerged as consequences of myriad numbers of repeated conflicts throughout history... and intuitively identifiable from the atmospheres by those who have been exposed to samples of natural conflicts. Physical conflicts and the patterns that would lead to those, the lines, the natural escalations of stakes, these are the things whose understanding of them is deeply ingrained inside people's subconscious.
The objections males like me often face when dealing with women is that they seem to not want to abide by this intuition. The costs of peace, the danger one should respect, the consequences of challenging one's right/property... I know that violence or attacks against assets are not to be brought in a civilized society, in order to ensure the serenity of it, but you should not take it for granted and nurture unfairness. We don't make the rules, it's only logical and natural, it's derived from what is just and what would produce the most peace and serenity. One way you can use to unlock your senses of "the lines" are, getting into simulations of regulated conflicts, through games, sparring, negotiations, involving different levels of stakes. Pay attention to the rules of the game and avoid vagueness in the standard as much as possible. Try your best to articulate the experience boldly.
Its time to not use compassion as an excuse to regress into unfairness, the type of unfairness that has been recognized by tradition. Its time to look up to the wisdom of Isaac Newton, standing in the shoulders of giants, and use the wisdom of the masculines to further your prosperity and independence. I suggest Dr. Jordan B Peterson's "Twelve Rules For Life, An Antidote to Chaos" for references in understanding the utility behind the culture of conflicts.
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